How to Heal After a Break-up

One day I received a phone call from my then loved one and found out that everything, “love is gone”, goodbye. For me it was a bolt from the blue, but as it turned out later, I was just hiding from the rain under my pink umbrella.


Fortunately, it was 3 years ago, but I spent 2 priceless years on an adequate assessment of what happened. Now I can say with confidence: there is life after parting, and it is even better than it was before.

Gotta be brave
First, you need to muster up the courage to accept this blow of fate. Love is an unearthly feeling that gives wings, you become better, more beautiful, smarter and kinder. Unfortunately, these skills are not innate, but come along with wonderful feelings for another person and leave with him.
You need to say to yourself that this is the end, no pause. After all, entertaining yourself with illusions is not the way to the beginning of a new life, but dancing on the grave of the old one. Have the courage to step into another dimension where you are alone. That's not fatal. Others have succeeded, and so can you. No one has died from parting yet, you are a full-fledged person and you can live on.

love yourself more
Immediately after a breakup, it is difficult, almost impossible. But you need to understand that you must put your interests above any others. This rule should protect against the frequent use of the initiator of the separation by the partner. “We are friends, my loved one also has a hard time breaking up, I have to be strong and help him more” - forget it, this is nonsense. You have to climb out of the abyss of despair after a breakup yourself in order to help someone.

Listen to loved ones
From personal experience, I learned that no matter how unique, cosmic, “for life” your relationship is, loved ones understand perfectly what you need. Yes, none of those around you understand what kind of love you had, how your heart sank next to your beloved, but they don’t need it. Do not refuse advice under the pretext: “You do not understand. We don't have what others have. No one else has such a connection as was between us.” Friends and loved ones do not want to know what kind of relationship you had because they are no more. Why talk about something that doesn't exist?

No need to hold back emotions
At first it will be a lake of tears (“Na-na-na-na, she threw me, in lakes of tears, I see through everything”). Later, you may radiate anger and resentment. It would be great at moments of emotional peak not to pick up easily breaking objects, phones, laptops. But if you knew where you would fall, you would lay straws. It is not always possible to predict your state after parting, so you don’t have to worry about material losses, the main thing is to return to a normal mental state. You are going through a kind of purification, so you don’t have to worry about the manifestation of emotions, even if you always keep everything under control.